Not your type (?)  

aflower2c 43F  
3479 posts
2/14/2018 3:44 pm
Not your type (?)


Sexy bloggers,
Let's see
I have been around dating sites long enough to have a pretty good feel about preferences, more specifically men's wording and his preferences when it comes to attraction.

When I read a profile and he states something along the lines of:
"Seeking hot/beautiful/attractive/sexy woman"
I pretty much just pass him by because experience has proven over again n again that he is 99% referring to conventionally attractive women.

My same experience applies to attractive/handsome men, generally they look for someone hotter then he is.

BUT... why don't (many) men believe me when I say that I'm not his type nor what he is looking for?
Do you not like the fact that you stated that you want attractive so that really does mean that you want attractive and I think most women have a pretty good grasp on where they stand on the "attraction scale" (#notallwomen) ...

So then he proceeds to make a big deal about not being "shallow" and that he's "open to everyone"! Pesters me into sharing a face pic........then he ghosts.
So much for not being shallow
Lol.

Don't worry I am so used to it that I don't even bother trying. pays to know where you stand on the average scale. Lol. And yes the hookup guys are the worst when it comes to this, so don't believe it when they say men can get it up for a stiff breeze. I'm on a dating site that seems to have lots of attractive men on it, so I won't be meeting anyone soon on there.

So sexy bloggers,
Are you as open as you claim?
Do you get angry when she points it out that you want hot?
Or if she thinks she's hotter than she actually is?
(I think that's a catfish thing)
What about your preferences, set in age group and attractiveness?

(The younger she is the less hot she can be because yanno she's young)
Now I am not talking absolute troll material, just the average scale to hot.

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


aflower2c 43F  
9861 posts
2/14/2018 3:46 pm

Just ran into this lately on the dating site.... so humiliation isn't my thing.
But when a guy claims he's open then sees a pic then disappears that gets pretty old fast.
So the safest thing for me to believe: men just want hot conventionally attractive women and the younger the better.

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


aflower2c 43F  
9861 posts
2/14/2018 3:49 pm

I'm going to hide the responses for now, so answer how you want.
Yes I fully understand that We all have preferences. ...

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


wantaplay8 65M
3032 posts
2/14/2018 4:16 pm

Not a clue as to WHY!
Some just can't except what you write to them I guess.


aflower2c replies on 2/14/2018 6:35 pm:
Yes, I know that is part of the reason.... maybe its an ego thing and he doesn't like to be proven wrong (that gasp a female is telling the truth)

proteus_2a 52M
4942 posts
2/15/2018 2:45 am

As long as a lady shows real spirit and is roughly in my league,it's basically ok
Otherwise, no need to joust and hassle ...

Cheers - P


aflower2c replies on 2/15/2018 6:01 am:
Yes... but do you treat good looking women better than you would an average looking one?

Exper1mental1st 41M
88 posts
2/17/2018 2:26 am

"conventional" beauty is thrust down our throats and into our brains so much now through the media that it is difficult to not become conditioned to it and to realise that the normal is not flawless skin, perfect hair, pneumatic boobs and washboard stomach.
So everyone ends up chasing the same "ideals", with unrealistic expectations, rather than seeing the beauty in the people all around them.
Increasingly women are falling into this trap too, and blokes have no chance of matching up to the media images of perfection.


aflower2c replies on 2/17/2018 8:51 pm:
I think women are falling into more n more is because they are subjected to it from the day they enter puberty...and it doesn't get any better as you grow into being an adult. They must figure it out after being subjected to it over n over again, then they finally learn to dish it out and own it.

I have definitely picked up some "man" traits because I figure whats good for the man must also be good for the woman! I have learned to be very selfish and shallow with some, especially when it comes to sex.

Leegs2012 45M
25934 posts
2/17/2018 8:15 am

Things in common make a great match!!


aflower2c replies on 2/17/2018 8:51 pm:
Yes, common ideas and goals generally help.

gattomonstrosis 52M
759 posts
2/18/2018 2:23 am

A lot of them think they are the only one who gets a choice, whomever they show any interest in *must* return it tenfold.


aflower2c replies on 2/18/2018 8:28 am:
Interesting view

I know I wont even bother with men that I find "very conventionally attractive/magazine worthy" because I know that they don't see me as a real person.

I also think that men either find themselves far more attractive than they really are, or they don't even think about how they look in terms of being attractive to the opposite sex. So you will see men that are 5's hitting on 10's ...but then he is playing the odds, hit on enough hot women and one will eventually say YES. So to him it was worth the rejection.
That is something I am trying to learn!

gattomonstrosis 52M
759 posts
2/18/2018 10:51 am

    Quoting aflower2c:
    Just ran into this lately on the dating site.... so humiliation isn't my thing.
    But when a guy claims he's open then sees a pic then disappears that gets pretty old fast.
    So the safest thing for me to believe: men just want hot conventionally attractive women and the younger the better.
What exactly is 'conventionally attractive' anyway? I can think of loads of actresses and supermodels that the world seems to think are hot stuff but who i really don't see what all the fuss is about, i'll take a Janeane Garofalo over a Megan Fox any day.


aflower2c replies on 2/18/2018 9:43 pm:
Pretty much the women you see in fashion magazines or the movied. The pretty chick that makes you look twice. The hot cheerleader type you fantasize about.
The one you want to show off to your friends.

gattomonstrosis 52M
759 posts
2/19/2018 11:05 am

The hot cheerleader doesn't do anything for me, i like larger women


aflower2c replies on 2/19/2018 5:19 pm:
Fair enough, but still a pretty face.

proteus_2a 52M
4942 posts
2/20/2018 2:58 am

    Quoting proteus_2a:
    As long as a lady shows real spirit and is roughly in my league,it's basically ok
    Otherwise, no need to joust and hassle ...

    Cheers - P
"...do you treat good looking women better than you would an average looking one?"
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Generally as I said , here on the shadows of the interwebs it's easier to play with wit and flair - tending to dim appearances
Other than that, It's etiquette that counts with me around here
Hope I answered your query my lady
Cheers - P


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