Fitness important?
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Posted:Jul 31, 2018 12:44 pm
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I frequently hear that the lifestyle isn’t about sex but relationships. Although this is true, it’s about sex as well. The prospect of sex is what drives our marriage. I’ve seen too many marriages fall apart after years of a piss poor sex life. Mrs. Loveland has a coworker who might have sex two times a year if they are lucky. He sleeps in the basement while his wife is upstairs with the dog.
I’ve read many articles detailing this fact in far too many marriages across the United States. Perhaps, this is the state of your union or your last marriage. Mrs. and I have never been this way. We committed to each other to have sex frequently no matter how crazy life got.
Over the years as my testosterone waned and life got in the way, I found it increasingly difficult to care about that promise. During a checkup, I discovered like so many of you that testosterone levels drop significantly in men as they age. This indeed is the irony of life. The male’s testosterone drops, and the female sex drive increases.
I have spent countless dollars on testosterone replacement treatments and found a way to keep my sex drive high. My weight loss journey, in part, began with the desire to have more muscle mass and less fat. Fat kills testosterone. So, along with hormone replacement therapy and hitting the gym, I began my journey to a fitter me.
At least in Colorado, most of the males in the lifestyle are fit. The women tend to range more than men, but I think it’s safe to say that many of the women are fit conscious. When I say fit, I’m not talking Dwayne Johnson fit (although I’ve seen that.) I would say most people have body fat under 25%.
Now that I’m firmly part of the lifestyle community the desire and drive to become more fit has become intense. I’ll be the first to admit I’m usually fluffier than our play partners husbands/dates. However, I could outperform, in the gym, many of them, it doesn’t matter if I have the extra layers of fluff. Considering my starting point, I’m not bashing my weight online. I’ve come a long way and still have a ways to go before our lifestyle cruise in April.
Having come from an obese weight down to an overweight weight, I applaud and admire the men my age who look a ton better than I do. I have received encouragement from our male friends and been offered help if so needed. That’s what I love about the lifestyle community. We don’t bash but try to encourage one another.
I know. I started this post talking sex and switching to fitness and community. The three are inexplicably linked. There are times when I look at Mrs. and say, “You need a girlfriend.” I don’t mean this because a threesome would be awesome. I say this because there are times she’d love to go to lunch or shopping with another woman who knows what she likes. A girl who shares her desires and kinkiness. Mrs. struggles with our vanilla friends who will never know her secret life.
The community of women in the lifestyle has made it enjoyable for her. She’s always ready for sex, but sometimes it’s nice to have a friend who you can do girl stuff with. The community of men is great as well. Yes, I get it. You want to fuck my wife. Who wouldn’t? However, it’s the relationships and comradery that we have at the bar before or in between the sessions of sex that I enjoy. Talking sports, cars, fishing, or whatever. There is more time spent talking than fucking.
Today, I received an IM from a single male explaining how he was going to fill Mrs. hole with his big cock and blah, blah, blah. The sad part is that this was his opening intro. I have no clue who this guy was. Mrs. never even saw it before I deleted it. I get it. You have a big cock. So what?
Mrs. does love a massive cock, but if that’s your intro, you’re the guy who doesn’t understand a woman. Mrs. wants to feel connected, assured, recognized, and then fucked. While some guys get to know Mrs. Loveland before fucking her at the club, others don’t. Those men will never get to fuck her again. She doesn’t expect you to be her husband (me), but maybe she’d like to know if you love cars, sports or sheep.
We were at a club a week or so ago, and this guy walked up all friendly to Mrs., told her how good looking she was and seemed friendly. I knew and didn’t care that he was hitting on Mrs. Not at all. He was nice. After asking and receiving both of our permission to touch and kiss, he went in for the kill. DAMN. Was he dying?! SLOW THE FUCK DOWN BUDDY. His touch was nothing like his approach. I approached to ask him to stop when he broke off his assault and thanked her. To answer that question, No. We did not let him fuck Mrs. later that night when he asked.
Take a step back from your overwhelming desire to get laid and listen to the woman before you move in for the poke. If you’re overweight, start working on it. Mrs., like most women in the lifestyle, think it’s essential. Don’t assault the woman. Not every chick loves it rough, matter of fact, few women like it rushed. If he had taken it slow and gentle, she would have been putty in his hands. Instead, she had to ask him not to squeeze the tits so hard.
I’ve spoken with some men in the lifestyle, and the story is frequently the same. The woman or the man wants to fuck our wives, but it’s not always reciprocated. I know a gentleman who arranged dates for his wife. He knows that not all women would want him. Likewise, I know I don’t have the 8.5” thick cock and washboard abs.
Mrs. loves the attention she receives from both men and women. She loves a fit, beautiful woman and often won’t play with the spouse without an attractive wife. She’s more lenient on the men than on women.
While we love the community and relationships, sexual attraction is equally essential. If you reach out to Mrs., please don’t rush in with the grope like you haven’t had pussy in 10 years and this is your only chance (even if that is true.) Don’t send us an IM talking about you filling her deepest hole with your cum. It’s not impressive or unique, and it makes you sound desperate and pathetic. Try getting to know the woman before stealing second and third base. Otherwise, you’ll never get to home plate.
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Respect for porn stars
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Posted:Jul 28, 2018 1:23 pm
Last Updated:Jul 28, 2018 1:37 pm
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Have you ever had sex in a room with a lot of people? I have a new respect for male porn stars. Have you ever wondered why you never see the man's face in porn? Mrs. always joked that they were not all that important. Good body and enormous cock.
Last night, Mrs. and I decided to grab a bed and fuck alone in the open playroom. Now, this wasn’t because we couldn’t have found another male. Plenty was standing around, jerking off and asking if they could participate. No, it was because Mrs. was frustrated after two couples politely turned down her offer. You might look at Mrs. pictures and wonder why anyone would turn down that hot body, but it happens.
Why let the evening go without a little fun? That’s what we thought. Now, we’re relatively new to the lifestyle, so this wasn’t something we’d done before. Sure, we’ve played with couples with the curtain slightly parted while people walked by and watched. This sexual experience was different. We found a bed in the open space and didn’t give two flying fucks who watched.
Mrs. Loveland was wet and engrossed with desire from a night of flirting. I’ve said this before, but Mrs. will approach the ladies she’s interested in sexually. Their dates or partners get lucky as well. However, since nobody had yet to release Mrs. from her sexual tension, it took one flick of the tongue for her to yell out in pleasure.
I love pleasuring a woman and love pleasuring Mrs. Loveland more than any other woman I’ve had before. She’s very vocal and doesn’t hesitate to let you know what she likes. I’m not sure how long I knelt between her legs, but it was long enough for my knees to protest when I stood to switch positions. I looked around and nearly gasped at how close the half dozen or more men and women stood near the bed. Oh well. “When in Rome…”
Mrs. had to decline the multiple offers to join us. Where were these brave souls when she was flirting upstairs? No matter. I proceeded to make out with Mrs. Loveland on the bed, then switched to 69 so she could help out my little man.
Believe it or not, it’s distracting and difficult to maintain an erection while everyone is watching! The only way I could achieve and maintain an erection was by closing my eyes and shutting out all the external stimuli from around the room. Every time I opened my eyes, some guy was jerking off less than three feet from our heads.
If it sounds like I’m complaining, I’m not. There was something inside me that stroked my ego, knowing I was fucking a woman every other man there wished to be fucking. I was glad I didn’t have a micro dick. I’m not porn star big, but it’s not small. The sexual energy in the room with my lovely wife moaning and the audience stroking--it was intense.
I directed Mrs. to reverse cowgirl facing the growing crowd while I hid behind her back and closed my eyes. Damn it’s difficult to stay hard with all the distractions. I imagined the “porn shot” where those men watched my cock slide in and out of her wet heat. Damn. We eventually ended up in the doggy style and I pounded Mrs. Loveland as sweat dripped from my chest and brow.
As soon as I came, the crowd dispersed and Mrs., and I laid back gasping for breath. It was intense, and probably the best fuck we’ve had in a couple of months. Not the best sex since lovemaking will always trump a fuck but it was great nonetheless.
So, circling back to male porn stars, it dawned on me that male pornstars rarely show their face since they have to shift from continually opening and closing their eyes. Opening your eyes stops you from cumming so fast, closing them helps you stay hard. I pounded of far longer than I would have at home. Mrs. Loveland was thrilled.
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How do you like it?
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Posted:Jul 26, 2018 6:20 pm
Last Updated:Jul 30, 2018 6:53 pm
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It's been a great birthday week. I've had loads of fun. Mr. Loveland bought a few new outfits. How do you like them?
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Facetime
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Posted:Jul 24, 2018 8:29 pm
Last Updated:Jul 25, 2018 6:28 am
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I'm a face man. Some men are boob men, some are attracted to the booty, but I'm a face man. If you’ve ever looked at Mrs. Loveland you might think it’s the opposite and yes she has beautiful tits, but I'm a face man. I know I'm shallow since I have a gap in my teeth that requires surgery to fix, but I still love a pretty face.
It didn’t take Mrs. long after her augmentation to learn that the majority of men and women love boobs. After our Scarlet Ranch experience (read Anaconda post) she realized she’s a cock girl as much as she’s into breasts. The foam party at SR last week gave her the opportunity to rub and up with groups of beautiful women. Oh, my! She loves nice fit bodies.
I feel guilty sometimes when we’re not “attracted” to other couples. Sometimes it’s one partner and other times the other. I’ll be honest we’ve “taken one for the team” before, but it’s not our thing. A guy approached me at the club asking for a “turn,” and I had to tell him that he was asking the wrong person in our relationship. I knew she’d turn him down. Was I wrong at not breaking the news gently, rather than having him hope for something later?
I have a rule. If the wife isn’t attracted, I'm not even going to ask Mrs. if she wants to play with a person or couple. Mrs. struck up a conversation with a hot woman at the club. Her husband wasn’t the best looking, and I chuckled that he and I were probably alike in that way. Our wives are hot, and the men are -- lesser. She later mentioned that she would have swapped with them so that she could play with her. LOL.
New York (see Anaconda) caught Mrs. attention the second time only because she saw his sizeable flaccid cock. The dick pics that get sent of a turgid penis doesn’t do much for her. New York was attractive, but as I said, she learned she’s a cock girl after seeing that impressive Statue of Liberty on a guy we already met that night.
I guess we’re all in pursuit of people whom we perceive are better looking or of a higher class than ourselves. I don’t think this is wrong. Mrs. Loveland is very sexual and confident in her skin. I think women find that very alluring. Men find the wrapping attractive, but she’s so much more than just a pretty face.
However, since I'm a face guy, I’ll kiss that pretty face all night long.
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Ananconda
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Posted:Jul 22, 2018 7:50 am
Last Updated:Jul 23, 2018 2:40 pm
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Mr. Loveland here once more. Last night, Mrs. Loveland and I spent a night of debauchery at a club we'd never been to before. Scarlet Ranch, nestled in the foothills of Denver Metro, is rather famous in the lifestyle community it turns out. I know, I know, those who've played for many years will have already heard about it and this is old news. However, we're fairly new to the lifestyle and didn't visit due to the excessive price for the swingers club. It is in a word...expensive.
New "membership" application fee and Saturday night set us back nearly $200. While you are all swallowing and shaking your head, I have to say it's half that on Saturday nights if, ***scratch that***, when we go back again. Of course, Saturday's are the most expensive and popular night and it's much cheaper mid-week.
Enough about that! This post is not a review of Scarlet Ranch, but a frame of reference to those reading this post. If you know nothing about SR then we highly recommend a visit.
After a play session with a fun "dating" couple, we met a single man from New York walking about gawking at how large this property is. Sadly, I can't remember his name and I doubt we even exchanged names. On the way home from the club Mrs and I just referred to him as New York. We exchanged niceties but Mrs. had never played with a single male before and wasn't all that interested. He was 6' 8", Caucasian, good looking, well spoken and charming, but Mrs is bisexual and prefers to play with both genders.
Fast forward to 1 AM and New York is talking to some new friends we had recently played with. I don't know why his cock was out but Mrs. Loveland couldn't take her eyes away from it. I'm not small and having played with many couples, I'd say I'm slightly above average. This cock? I'm straight and even I could hardly tear my eyes away.
I looked at Mrs. and tilted my head towards New York and said, "Go ahead." What Mrs. Loveland loves more than being with a woman is a large thick cock. She stood up from our seated area and walked over to New York and took hold of his member.
"Hi!" she said. "You don't mind do you?"
"Not at all."
HIs flaccid penis was easily 5 inches and thrice the diameter of my thumb. He continued talking to our friends while Mrs. played and fondled New York. Eventually, our group decided to go downstairs to play adult Jenga and made our way to the stairs. However, Mrs., New York, and I diverted to a bed to continue with Mrs. fascination with New York.
Mrs. doesn't like to play without me present and so I gave her to signal that she could proceed and she went about finding out just how large the state of New York really is. The answer to that question is, 9-inches and the size of a beer bottle. OMG! The reason I mentioned his ethnicity above is that large white cock is VERY RARE. It's like finding a unicorn.
With the curtain open, Mrs. and New York spent quality time together while a number of men and couples stood around to watch the show. Mrs. vocally approved as she took it all in. Spent, and relaxing on the bed a Black man with a British or old British colony accent came by.
"Oh, I missed it?"
"I guess so," I said to him.
He walked away and Mrs. looked disappointed. Hell. Mrs. could have done every man in the club after taking in New York. Scarlet Ranch closes at 2 a.m. and so Mrs. cleaned up and went to find our friends who were still playing Jenga.
The black gentleman who early expressed his disappointment about missing the action with Mrs. was standing with our friends. He made eye contact with Mrs. and immediately approached and whispered in her ear.
I didn't hear what he said, but later my wife told me that he asked, "Wanna play?"
Do you think he waited of a response? Nope. Grabbing her hand and leading her away. Mrs. frantically grabbed my arm pulling me along. Mrs. does not play alone.
Now, I don't consider myself a cuckold and under normal circumstances, Mrs. won't play with single men. However, given how many hours of orgasms Mrs. had last night, she made the exception and I sure as hell wasn't going to get hard anytime soon.
So, I took a seat and as the clock ticked close to closing time and the beds were being stripped of their sheets. BBC took my wife in five fast, rough, orgasmic minutes. SHIT! I got hard after listening to her screams of pleasure.
So, how was our evening? Unexpected. Mrs. and I, had great sex once we got back home and here I am writing a post with less than four hours of sleep.
Mrs. response in the car? "AMAZING! We're coming back here."
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What surprised me the most?
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Posted:Jul 16, 2018 9:15 am
Last Updated:Jul 16, 2018 5:33 pm
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Mr. Loveland here. I would never have considered the lifestyle or even mentioning the possibility of it with my wife of 23 . You hear this from others but our marriage has been a storybook one. We have never had a fight in our entire marriage. Oh, sure, we’ve disagreed with one another but we’ve never had a yelling, shouting, name-calling fight in all our time together. We know how unusual this is. I especially know how unusual this was and decided long ago never to do anything the would mess up my marriage. Cheating is the surest way to, pardon the phrase, FUCK it up.
A few back, we went to Saint Maarten on a cruise and spent one afternoon on a clothing optional beach. We discovered that day that we both loved being naked in public. If you’ve never been to a nude beach or nude resort, understand that there isn’t much sexual energy at a nude beach. I think that’s what we enjoyed the most about it. We stripped bare and the world could witness the beauty of a normal healthy pasty white redhead couple. We’re not supermodels but we are comfortable in our skin.
My wife complained, once back on the ship, how the hot couple next to us didn’t doff the clothing. That was my first surprise. My wife wanted to see the hot guys cock. Well, we didn’t stop with our one experience and over the following have traveled to clothing optional hot springs and resorts.
We have come to appreciate the natural beauty of the human form. We’ve seen it all and never once during all our vacations and trips did we think of being in the lifestyle or having sex with other couples. Being a nudist is not about sex, but body acceptance.
This past winter, after our latest cruise to Mexico, we decided to try an adult only clothing optional cruise. I contacted the travel company and booked us our nudist cruise. A couple weeks after we paid our deposit and first installment I learned this cruise was a lifestyle cruise first and a nudist cruise second. WAY SECOND. The internal debate raged. Do I tell the Mrs.?
After verifying it, I informed my wife that it was a swinger cruise first and foremost. My second surprise came when she didn’t demand I cancel the cruise. Hmm… So… Why not bring up the possibility? I did.
As many of you have been new to the lifestyle at some point in your lives, sure you’ve read the articles that state very clearly that you MUST HAVE A STRONG MARRIAGE. I’ll admit, I wondered if I was stupid when I brought up the idea and question about swinging. I feel I must defend myself here. I did not book the cruise knowing it was a swingers cruise nor have I ever wanted to be a swinger. Don’t get wrong. I have fantasies but my marriage was near as perfect as I could imagine.
Mrs. Loveland didn’t shoot down the possibility and that opened the door for our rebirth. I won’t lie and say she was excited about it. She and I read and read different articles and blogs on the lifestyle. Did she want to do it or didn’t she? What would it be like? Would I be able to get it up? So many questions raced through our heads as we struggled with the internal shift of our mindset.
We had two questions we had to address before making that leap. Is swinging cheating? And...for her, is this a sin? I couldn’t help her with the last one since an atheist but was raised a Christian. not exactly a fair arbiter when it comes to heaven and hell. Don’t get me wrong, not anti-religion. I just don’t believe. Mrs., however, believes and I’d never push her to go against her wishes.
We spoke for many days and hours and finally decided we’d go to a club. NOT NEAR OUR HOME. But, we’d be going on vacation and we’d go to one there. To answer the first question, what is cheating? Cheating is when we are lying and going behind each other’s back. Cheating is when we only think about ourselves and not what the other needs. The second question is about sin. Sinning is when you are doing intentional harm to others either directly or indirectly. If we are not cheating then we’re not committing adultery. Thus, same room, no hall pass. This includes emotional cheating between couples. If my wife is talking to the male half of the couple it’s done on with group chat so Mr and Mrs of both parties can view if they wish.
The day of our first club party came and Mrs. had an unexpected visit from Aunt Flo. “ARE YOU #$@@# KIDDING ME,” I thought but I didn’t say it. Life happens.
As our vacation was winding down, the weather cleared up, and we decided to try again. I won’t go into detail here but we had a wonderful time. We met a wonderful couple and had a few hours of fun together. We both checked off a number of bucket list items. I’ll write something up later about our exploits, but this blog is about surprises.
“That was so AMAZING!” my wife exclaimed in the car on the way back to our hotel. I orgasmed twice with the other couple and had a massive one after we got back to our room. not 20 anymore and I admit, I was impressed that the sexual energy was high enough for to enjoy the time fully.
My biggest surprise was how much my wife enjoys the lifestyle. Dare I admit that she loves it more than I? Perhaps it’s because she discovered she loves eating pussy? I admit, it’s nice but I think it had more to do with the attention and care given to the women in the lifestyle that she fell in love with.
Her biggest surprise is how it’s made our marriage stronger rather than hurting it. We’ve had amazing sex since first getting into the lifestyle. She fantasizes about other men and women as well as developing new fantasies that she’d never even considered before. Don’t get me wrong, we’ve had great sex over the and have our , but enjoying our time with others has made all the difference in our marriage.
We still have our cruise booked in April as well as Caliente before we sail. We love sex and hope to share this love of sex with many many more.
--Mr. Loveland
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