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Original Article

FAKING IT!
by Kate Rose

I’ve had a lot of sex. It’s a great thing really. If you think about it, it’s a wonderful way to relax and unwind, to fall asleep if you have trouble sleeping, or even just to take your mind off of some stressor in your life. I’ve never been the type to regard sex as dirty; to me its plain and simple gratification, the same way a piece of expensive chocolate is. (Of course sex is infinitely better than chocolate.) But what do we all strive for when it comes to sex? Why the big O, most certainly, that cosmic force that can’t be reckoned with. In the throes of orgasm, the world could be falling down aro

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Comments

eharrison 60 M
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Straight to the point. Please don't fake it gals. Our
ego's aren't that fragile and most of us truly
do want to know what you want.

need32havefun 44,1944 C
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If you have good communication in your relationship you
shouldn't have to fake it, your partner will know
how to please you.

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And do you ever fake it to get a guy to stop when he's just
terrible?

Body1109 40 F
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I have faked it when i was 16 but now I know my body and cum really
fast

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Yes, ladies, let us know how to please you!

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A very good article for everyone to read, because it points
out reality. If you fake it, you're only sending him
the wrong message, telling him that you love the way he makes
love to you, and telling him that you are content with his
techniques. I totally agree that communication is the
only way to make the most rewarding and healthy relationships.
Only honesty about everything in a relationship, especially
what makes you feel the most ultimate pleasures, can lead
you to the most satisfying, ultimate, long lasting, truely
REAL relationships. Always be honest with your partner...that
is the key to riches!

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A very good article. right to the point and I totally agree.

WildCat037 39 M
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Every woman likes something different, so if its a new relationship
especially, women should be more straight forward in communicating
what they do and don't like instead of misleading or
out right lying. I imagine most men are pretty willing to
do what it takes to please you ladies.

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Faking it is really lying to your partner. A healthy relationship
is based on honesty and if you cannot be honest about cumming
then tell your partner how or what they can do to make sex
as enjoyable for you as them

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hits the nail right on the head... Pun intended. I hope all
the guys who read this print or save it . because there is
a perfect set of instructions there!

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Dear women. Every woman is different. If you teach a caring
lover, with moderate stamina, once, then you will probally
never have to fake it again. You also will find that we love
to see you orgasm and will do almost anything to make it happen.
By the way, guys fake it too. NOt the orgasm part, but beleive
me, after hitting it for awhile (plus 15-30 minutes), If
its not good, then it is just exercise. If it is really good,
then we will have to stop for a moment, back off the orgasm.
and start again. That is truly how you know sex is great for
a man.

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yes thank u fer writing an article telling woman to STOP
faking it

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when u fake, men wouldn't know when are you for real.
How would u feel if the man fake it too.

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Great article, insightful; you're a fine writer :)

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I tried faking once when I met my current guy. I had faked
before, alot with my previous boyfriend, so I thought I
had it down. Lucky for me, my current guy has been around
the block so many times his shoes have worn a rut in the pavement.
He looked at me with a surprised look on his face and said
"Please dont do that, if you do how will I ever figure
out what you REALLY like?" I haven't tried to
fool him since and guess what... I dont have to. From then
on he just kept getting better and better and ... Well, you
get the idea. Faking an orgasm isn't just disrespectful
to your partner, it prevents a true knowledge of intimacy
and you, ultimately, will be the big loser. I have multiple
orgasms EVERY SINGLE TIME we play now. Honesty really is
the best policy.


Angel

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LOOK IF YUR MAN ISN'T GETTING IT DONE DIRECT HIM ON HOW
TO DO IT BETTER!

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I do enjoy the miracles

Boo045 64 F
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I loved your article. It felt like you've had a lot of
the same experiences I have.


My first lover was hung like a horse. I was a virgin and really
had nothing to compare him to. I thought that was what men
looked like when they were hard and that I would just have
to get used to it.


I admit, I got to the point (after he played piledriver with
me forever, and I thougt that was what I was supposed to feel)
that I faked just to get it over with. How sad. I wish I had
known enough about sex and relationships to know that I
could probably have told him what I liked and had all of the
orgasms I could ask for.


For I guess that was the lesson of that relationship. I've
worked hard in subsequent relationshiops to communicate
what I like and also to try to urge my partner to communicat
what is best for him. With any decent partner, what you give
is what you;ll get. When he communicates with me, he have
bone-crushing orgasms which makes him highly motivated
to ensure that I do too.


Ladies, let's just stop faking and start educating
our men. They understand our equipment about as well as
we did when we first encountered theirs. It takes a little
patience and a lot of communication and you'll never
feel the need to fake again.

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Never understood why women faked it, communication is
key to any sex life. Glad i stopped to read this article,
defintly worth it's weight in gold

lynnbluff 48 F
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I'm happy to hear that there is at least one less faker.

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yes, every woman is different but you have these guys who
have read every damn book and think they have got it down!
they are so sure of their "technique" that they
are not reading your body signals. you know who is the expert
on how to make me cum? Me! talk to Me, ask Me if it's good
and when i answer? listen, learn, and use it on Me. when you
are with the next girl try the same method; that is, the ask
listen and learn technique, you can never go wrong with
that!

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I think that in a real relationship, most guys really do
want to pleasure their woman. And to put it bluntly, every
person is different...what one woman might LOVE doesn't
do anything for another. How's a guy to know that if
the woman won't communicate her wants and needs to
him? If the woman is smooth enough to let her man know what
she likes, or what he could try, without coming off like
she's attacking him, odds are that he'll do his
best for her!


Personally, I've never been bothered by a request
and I LOVE positive feedback! If you like it, lemme know,
and you'll get more of it! If you don't like it,
we can try something else. It really is that simple...

Twoface04 39 M
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Good job, school these ladies, and if the men won't
take what u ask for and apply it, then just don't do shit
with them.

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from my humble point of view, I absolutely LOVE being told
what to do, and how to do it. If a woman directs me to her own
personal "hot spot", and tells me exactly how
she likes it, why wouldn't I gladly comply?
Conversely, faking it would make me feel worse if I knew
that you were faking, than having the real O would make me
feel like a stud. Does that make sense?
Feeling good, and intimacy is what makes sex so powerful
and great. Why wouldn't one express just what makes
them rock? Everyone is different, and everyone likes things
a slightly different way. We all need to customize a bit
for each lover... that's what makes it so awesome!
Great article!